Blackness

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It was easy to break her marinating heart on a Friday night when she was sat at the candle-lit kitchen table, chain-smoking and listening to Janis Joplin, or The Eagles, or Rod Stewart; sometimes I didn’t, but most times I did because the tone of my voice, or the choice of my words, or the sound of my lungs breathing poisonous air reminded her of my dad. She’d always taught me to be honest, but never liked it when I was honest in the dim firelight encircled by her blackness. The blackness was viscous like the bile she’d vomit after everything else had come up at 3 a.m.

I found her once in the bathroom when I was fourteen years old, passed out in a pool of rejected alcohol, and I left her there, half-hoping she’d asphyxiate. I packed a duffel bag that late afternoon, and ran away with my best friend. We were only gone a few hours; I was relieved to come home and find my mother alive in her bed, heavily asleep.

I can’t believe I’d left my sister. I don’t recall the specifics of that day, but shit must have been head deep, because I cannot imagine abandoning Tara.

Tara. I’ve always looked after her, but now that our mother is gone, the responsibility I feel is heavier than ever. Taking care of my sister is something that’s always been expected of me. I don’t mean like, “hold her hand on your way to school.” I mean legit parenting. But we’re both adults, so that makes the weight all the more cumbersome. And Tara, she’s a fierce woman. She doesn’t need me to parent her, nor does she want me to. But habits are called habits for good reason. I don’t think I’ll ever be able to relinquish the charge of looking after my sister.

Even though I’m tired.

I’m so fucking tired.

My mother was tired when she died. However, I don’t think she was so tired that she was ready to go away. She’d just welcomed a new granddaughter into the world. And her oldest granddaughter is getting married this summer. My mother was tired, but she was also looking forward to so much. I was looking forward to so much; over the past couple of years, she and I had made huge steps towards healing our relationship. She’d cut down significantly on her drinking, and I’d begun to see more of the mother I knew before alcoholism took hold of her. So now, I just feel fucking robbed.

Two nights ago, I was cooking dinner, and thinking of my mother. I had to stop what I was doing, I was so overcome. I went into my bedroom, and screamed until my throat went hoarse.

Then I threw up blackness all over the bed.

 

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29 thoughts on “Blackness

  1. Oh Kindra, I can’t find the fucking words. I just can’t…it’s all so damned unfair and the words I CAN think of are completely inadequate. Love you my dearest Kindred.

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  2. Kindra this is an amazing write and my heart also aches for you. What a magnificent woman you turned into despite these things happening. It only further reaffirms that from awful situations come some of the most amazing people I have ever met.

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  3. My mother was an alcoholic too and this post took me right back to finding my mother passed out on the bathroom floor, except I was eleven. And I can definitely relate to the feelings of being robbed when my mother died. So I kinda hate this, but it’s incredibly written. It’d be evocative even if I didn’t have my own set of memories to connect to this.

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  4. i can’t stop thinking of your book and how it moved me so much…it’s funny the things that unite strangers so powerfully! So we are no longer strangers, my heart so goes out to you!!
    I’m sorry, it just seems my email is kind of redundant. ❤️🌸

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